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Hello Henry and welcome to Christforums!

 

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Hi Henry, WELCOME TO CF :RpS_smile: I'm glad you found us :RpS_thumbsup:

 

I love Jesus, dogs and tennis too, but I'm glad I'm not in Florida right now. Are you out of harm's way?

 

God bless you! (Numbers 6:24-26)

 

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