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  1. From where I am, divorce isn't really approved by the law. We have annulment here which takes a long time before it can even be certified. It's basically nullifying the marriage so it seems like it didn't even happen in the first place. And only celebrities, politicians and basically, rich people that can afford annulment. So in reality, there's not much separation here especially in legal marriages. But that's not to say that there aren't people who live together without the sanctity of marriage, because there are as well. But for the most part, people consider marriage here as holy and would think twice about getting an annulment. I don't know why divorce or annulment happens for sure. They might have their reasons and it's not really something that I should get into. But for me, marriage is hard work. It's something you work on every day, every minute of your married life. You cannot just leave because of arguments or financial hardships. The reason you got into marriage is because of love but that's not enough to stay in it. You need patience, kindness, care and understanding among all other things. You need to see the person despite his or her flaws and love him or her as who he or she is. And maybe that's why many marriages don't work. We become selfish, thinking only of ourselves. And when that happens, how can we love selflessly? How can we see the person despite the flaws?
  2. I think so. You know what, I have very high hopes for humanity and that includes the rich people. I mean, there are those businessmen who really didn't accumulate their wealth from taking advantage of others (read: corrupt politicians). And they continue to expand their business, at the same time, they're providing work for lots of people. If they do this without damaging the environment as well, then they are following the laws of God as well. So in that sense, they can be both rich and true Christians. And through their hard work, their businesses continue to flourish because they do help out others as well. But there are also rich people who cannot be true Christians. Like I've mentioned before, we have the corrupt politicians or maybe the businessmen who acquired their wealth through ill-doings. And despite all their wealth, I believe they will not be truly happy because they have taken advantage of so many people. God has more compassion for the poor simply because they live with what they can afford only. And if the poor lives a decent life, free from sins, then he or she has even more place in His kingdom. But that's not to say that the rich cannot have a place on His kingdom as well.
  3. This is very sad and disappointing. I think that first and foremost, the government should prioritise its citizens. They are the bread and butter of every country, with the taxes they pay and the services they give. So no matter what, it's the government's responsibility to take into consideration their needs. I do understand that Syria is in a very devastating situation right now. But that budget allocated for its rebuilding is very high and it even surpassed the budget for the veterans. I also understand that the US government is just trying to patch things up in there but really, it's not their responsibility to do that. It's the Syrian government that needs to take care of their rebels. I also understand that the Syrian government doesn't have much power to stop these terrorists. And that's frustrating as well on their part... But the US government needs to just give enough support them. After all, there are people struggling in America as well and they need to be prioritised. The veterans are mostly elderly people that cannot take care of themselves. And they do need support especially with their conditions and illnesses. It's the same way in our country... Thousands are denied medical health care everyday. Thousands die of malnutrition or illnesses because they cannot afford food or medicines. It's the sad reality of life that happens everyday. We can help them but it pains me that the government here is so corrupt that they take the money intended for these people. Sigh...
  4. Isaiah 55:8 "For my thoughts are not your thoughts, neither are your ways my ways, saith the LORD. For as the heavens are higher than the earth, so are my ways higher than your ways, and my thoughts than your thoughts. For as the rain cometh down, and the snow from heaven, and returneth not thither, but watereth the earth, and maketh it bring forth and bud, that it may give seed to the sower, and bread to the eater: So shall my word be that goeth forth out of my mouth: it shall not return unto me void, but it shall accomplish that which I please, and it shall prosper in the thing whereto I sent it." I love this one and it perfectly fits this thread about trusting God. It's important that we understand that God has His plans for us. It's not our duty to make assumptions about His plans for us, only He knows what life He has envisioned for us. Therefore, our only duty is to trust in Him and know that whatever His plans are, they're for our sake. There might be trials and hardships but all of these are part of the journey. Have you ever thought that this isn't how you planned things but it worked out perfectly for you? Because that is the beauty in God's plan... It all works out in the end. Everything He does has a reason and it is not our duty to question His motives. And when we learn to do that, that's when we have fully trusted God.
  5. The Triune or Trinity specifically refers to: 1. God the Father 2. The Son is God 3. The Holy Spirit is God There is but one God, but these three persons are distinct from each other and can be equally called God. We can actually see the plural form of God in some passages: Genesis 1:26 "Let us make man in our image, after our likeness.” Genesis 3:22 "Behold, the man has become like one of us in knowing good and evil.” Isaiah 6:8 “Whom shall I send, and who will go for us?” Then, we have to recall some passages acknowledging that these three personas are separate from each other: Romans 8:3-4 "For God has done what the law, weakened by the flesh, could not do. By sending his own Son in the likeness of sinful flesh and for sin, he condemned sin in the flesh, in order that the righteous requirement of the law might be fulfilled in us, who walk not according to the flesh but according to the Spirit." So yes, God is the Triune God. In order to understand it better, think of it this way, these three personas have different responsibilities. Much like I'm a woman, a mother and a wife, all at the same time. I hope this helps!
  6. There's this expression which we're so fond of using: "God loves and accepts us unconditionally." Revelation 3:14-16 says: And to the angel of the church in Laodicea write: The Amen, the faithful and true Witness, the Beginning of the creation of God, says this: 15 ‘I know your deeds, that you are neither cold nor hot; I would that you were cold or hot. 16 ‘So because you are lukewarm, and neither hot nor cold, I will spit you out of My mouth.' God understands us but we cannot keep committing sins and asking for forgiveness. God won't just accept us, regardless of whether we commit sins or do bad things. The stories of the Israelites and Cain, you can see that God won't tolerate such behaviours. And it's just right, because by doing so, we will just commit and commit mistake after mistake. God does not accept things that aren't holy, that's the truth. We must live our lives as holy as God wants us to be. We must educate people that God won't accept us regardless of what we do. You can fall one time, but you cannot fall a hundred times and expect God to accept you unconditionally. God is holy and he wants us to understand what being holy means so we can begin living our lives worthy of an eternal life.
  7. John 24: "God is spirit, and those who worship him must worship in spirit and truth." God is Spirit, so He is neither male nor female. He does not possess human limitations or restrictions. However, all throughout the Scripture, God is assigned human characteristics so we can understand Him. This is a means for a spiritual being to communicate with us, mortals. This makes us able to understand things better, since we are limited in our capacity to understand anything beyond the physical world. There were lots of times in the Scripture where God was referred to as the "Father." However, we have to keep in mind that this is the chosen image of God. It doesn't necessarily mean that He is a male or a female, it just means that this is His chosen form for us to be able to grasp who He is. Matthew 23:37: "O Jerusalem, Jerusalem, the city that kills the prophets and stones those who are sent to it! How often would I have gathered your children together as a hen gathers her brood under her wings, and you were not willing!" In this verse, Jesus used this passage and referred to God as a hen. We can see that God is a sensitive Being, just like women. And with this, I think we can say that he understands all our needs and feelings, whether we're men or women. I think what is important is for us not to force God into the limitations of the physical world. He is a Spirit and he cannot be wholly understood because we are only mortals. We can only trust in Him and His plans for us.
  8. Hmmm... This is definitely a hotly debated issue for years and years now. For me, what is wrong with celebrating the birth of Jesus Christ? I mean, isn't that the main focus of Christmas anyway? If you can set aside the stockings, the Christmas trees and the gifts, and you would see that we celebrate Christmas for Jesus Himself, what's so wrong with that? I guess because of all of these material things, the meaning of Christmas itself has gotten lost. And that's where the problem starts, when we start being confused on just what Christmas is all about. Don't get me wrong, it's okay to have Christmas trees or stockings, but you have to remember why you're celebrating Christmas after all. Setting aside the real birth of Christ issue and the Saturnia issue, we have to understand that Christmas is all about Jesus Christ. Much as we celebrate the birthdays of our loved ones, we give them our full attention. Then, we have to do that as well with Jesus supposed birth date. And even though it has no biblical origins, I think it's a form of respect and gratitude for our Jesus Christ. So long as we know why we're celebrating it and we don't get lost in all these rituals and material things, then we can enjoy Christmas and its purpose.
  9. I have read about this new phenomenon amongst gays. Although I've read a few claims by homosexuals that they don't even know any of their friends into this thing. So even though the numbers in the article I've read are quite high, I don't think most gays practice this "Chemsex." And seriously, I also don't think they are the only ones practicing this, but they are quite sensationalised. Maybe even heterosexuals are into this, they aren't just in the spotlight as gays are. Anyway, I think whatever the gender of the person is that is into "Chemsex," it basically stems down to a lack of intimacy during their younger years. I think that the gays are more susceptible though because they don't experience intimacy as much. They're bound to hide their true identities and by doing so, they are missing out on a lot of opportunities for being true to themselves and the people around them. So that when they do grow up, there's this sudden exposure to such drugs and groups of people. And since they don't know how to show intimacy being that they weren't exposed to it as much, they mistake it for just having sex and sex and sex. I just wish that even though the bible doesn't accept homosexual acts, we can find a way to love them. Pray for them as well so they won't be drawn into the wrong path. I think being a homosexual isn't a sin but once you act on those thoughts and repeatedly do so, with different people, all the time, then you might be committing sins already.
  10. Exodus 22:2-3 2 "If the thief is found breaking in, and he is struck so that he dies, there shall be no guilt for his bloodshed. If the sun has risen on him, there shall be guilt for his bloodshed." I'm going to use this verse from the bible. As it states, if a thief comes in at night and steals from you and you kill him, you will be guilty of murder. Why? Because it's dark and it's hard to discern what his intentions are. If it's just stealing or maybe something worse like kidnapping, rape or murder, you won't know since you cannot see him. But if the crime happens during the day and it's easier to discern what his intentions are, then you might be guilty of murder. After all, taking a life in comparison with stealing isn't at all equal. Of course, this is just a hypothetical situation. What it emphasises though is that it depends on the crime committed to you or the person wants to commit. There are rapists, murderers and kidnappers during the day, but really, you can see what their intentions are and decide if you need to defend yourself or your family.
  11. Yet another tough issue here. I guess drafting single women in the military is fine. Although I do understand the point where fathers have this responsibility to protect their children, especially their daughter and wife. And by allowing them to go into the military, how else can they protect them there? However, I also understand that as adults, we are entitled to our own decisions as well. So as long as the single woman isn't forced into it, then we cannot really do anything about it. But if it's a mother, then problems might arise. The first and primary responsibility of a mother is to take care of her children. It might be even worse if the father is also in the military. Who else is going to take care of the child? What if both parents die on the battlefield? And lastly, the issue of sexual harassment. I think that if women are deployed in the military, they are in greater risk of being harassed or raped. And that's what scares me the most, that women are more vulnerable to such horrible act.
  12. From what I've understood as well, it's the vow you have made with God that makes you reluctant to have sex with your partner. And I think that's commendable, that you're really thinking about this certain covenant you have made with God. For me, it's important as well to uphold your promise to God because in the end, He is all that matters. He should be the centre of your life, first and foremost, so I don't think you're doing anything wrong by following through with your vow with Him. All these pleasures, material things, they're all in the world we live in right now. Everything won't exist once we're up there with Him. So there's this conscience inside you, and I think that's the Holy Spirit telling you that there is something wrong once you break your vow. And if I were you, yes, I would listen to that voice. As for the girl, you have to tell her about this. If she can wait a few more years until you guys are married, then I think you're going to be fine. But if not, then that's another issue. But if she really loves you, she can wait as well. Good luck and I hope this helps!
  13. Hmmm... Jesus didn't really preach pacifism, from what I've understood. I mean, he is the prince of peace and one day, he'll bring peace to this world. But like you've already posted, lots of situations and scenarios in the bible oppose the thinking that he is a pacifist. For instance, Jesus' disciples owned swords as well. Jesus even instructed them to bring their swords on the night that he was betrayed. And when Peter wounded one of the soldiers, Jesus healed the man and commanded Peter to keep his sword. Interpreting this situation, it means that our usage of weapons or violence must be justified. Yes, violence must be used at times, the bible has lots of accounts of that when God used war for cities or people who disobeyed him. But it is never without reason, it is always because the people had become too disrespectful and has forgotten about Him. He would never hurt an innocent person especially a child. And I think it's the same way with Jesus, he doesn't promote war but knows that at times, it is necessary. And for those serving in the military, as long as they are protecting the people from the terrorists, I don't think they will be condemned for it.
  14. Marriage is incredibly hard work and effort, that's for sure. And for many people, they don't even attempt to take that responsibility despite marrying each other and listening to the sermon by their priest. I know, not every marriage is perfect, mine isn't as well. But that's what makes it difficult and challenging, waking up everyday and finding a reason to love your partner. I have had my share of doubts and questions early in my marriage. Questions like, "Did I make the right decision?" or "What if we just nullify our marriage?" And despite these troubles, here we are right now and still together. Why? Because I made a vow to him and to God and I intend to keep that vow. Of course, certain situations like death of the partner, abuse or anything worthy of divorce can be accepted. But as much as possible, I still think that married couples have to work hard to preserve their marriage. It isn't like eating something hot and spitting it out when you get hurt. Marriage doesn't work like that, you're in it through the good and through the tough times. Every day is a struggle, but what doesn't kill you makes you stronger. As long as you fight and make up and as long as you have love and as long as God is in the centre of the relationship, believe that it will work out. For me, marriage is holy and shouldn't be done in a haze or if you're not sure if that person is the one you want to spend the rest of your life with. Being married means being forgiving. Being married means being loving. Being married means being there for each other. And being married means being understanding.
  15. A few passages worthy of being mentioned: "You shall not lie with a male as one lies with a female; it is an abomination." Leviticus 18-22 "If there is a man who lies with a male as those who lie with a woman, both of them have committed a detestable act; they shall surely be put to death. Their bloodguiltness is upon them."Leviticus 20-13 "Or do you not know that the unrighteous shall not inherit the kingdom of God? Do not be deceived; neither fornicators, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor effeminate, nor homosexuals, 10 nor thieves, nor the covetous, nor drunkards, nor revilers, nor swindlers, shall inherit the kingdom of God." Corinthians 6-9:10 As others have pointed out, the bible clearly condemns homosexuality. But does this mean that we can persecute, hurt, insult or call them names? Nope, that's not the way it works. Imagine it this way, what if a person was born and raised believing that stealing is good. Would you allow for that person to continue on his acts despite it being a sin? No, you would try and change his behaviour so he can be a child of God, especially if you're a caring parent or relative. The same goes for homosexual individuals... We can still love them and care for them, but we cannot accept their behaviour or acts. But insulting them or judging them isn't the right way to help them. We are all children of God and we must learn to embrace our sisters and brothers. And although we must not approve of their homosexuality, we can still help them by showing them to the right path. It is only through God and God alone that they can be saved. Pray for them so that they might be saved as well. I think this is the best thing that we can do for our homosexual brothers and sisters.
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