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Theology, Matthew 18:15-17, & Justice

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I have been repeatedly asked to "forgive" my mother, but that does not mean I should not, or cannot punish her.  I want to follow Matthew 18 to do so, and for that I need witnesses. Many have counseled leaving, but ostracizing is supposed to only happen after she is confront Ed by witnesses.  Also, I have found no local church willing to cooperate with me.  I just don't want to judged for choosing to punish her.  I also want my theology submitted to theologian s, for judgment.  I am also doing this for stare decisis reasons, and am sick of guilt.  I can fill out more details, as needed.

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I simply long to hear the words, "Philip, there is NO guilt in punishing, or rebuking, your mother."  That's it.  No elliptical excuses.  Just support, and solidarity.

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7 hours ago, Noitartst said:

I have been repeatedly asked to "forgive" my mother, but that does not mean I should not, or cannot punish her.  I want to follow Matthew 18 to do so, and for that I need witnesses. Many have counseled leaving, but ostracizing is supposed to only happen after she is confront Ed by witnesses.  Also, I have found no local church willing to cooperate with me.  I just don't want to judged for choosing to punish her.  I also want my theology submitted to theologian s, for judgment.  I am also doing this for stare decisis reasons, and am sick of guilt.  I can fill out more details, as needed.

What do you mean by "punish"?

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My apologies, for not replying, sooner, friend; by that, I mean simple rebuking; recognition from observers that she is defying not just me, but God.  Jesus called for divisiveness, and I think what I am calling for, is Biblical. 

 

I am basically tired of people who are not willing to take a stand, against her.  They can criticize her politely, and I can formulate plenty of ways to speak the truth in love, but they simply don't wanna admit that she is wrong, that she defied my authority, and if they can't do that, they are blaming me, and taking my mother's side, by default.  Their rejection, and condemnation hangs off me like spit, blame, and contempt, making mercy into obligation, not choice, and the justice of Matthew 18:15-17 into revenge.  For instance, others keep saying that I should leave my family, but why?  Ostracism is the last resort, but we have yet to establish that my my mother has sinned by multiple witnesses, and if I leave in anger, it is self- condemnation, self-punishment. an act of ungodly rebellion, on my part.  

Also, check my blog at unthawedfury.wordpress.com for more info.  I just want support confronting my mother, per Matthew 18:15-17;  it should be pretty simple, and note it says this is how you handle sin, not the magnitude; it is all about how you measure.  You wanna go ticky-tack, you can, but if so, prepare to be ticky-tacked, too.  Maybe I am going ticky-tacky, but it is NOTHING I am not prepared, for.  I am doing this in good conscience, as best I can tell.

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2 hours ago, Noitartst said:

My apologies, for not replying, sooner, friend; by that, I mean simple rebuking; recognition from observers that she is defying not just me, but God.  Jesus called for divisiveness, and I think what I am calling for, is Biblical. 

 

I am basically tired of people who are not willing to take a stand, against her.  They can criticize her politely, and I can formulate plenty of ways to speak the truth in love, but they simply don't wanna admit that she is wrong, that she defied my authority, and if they can't do that, they are blaming me, and taking my mother's side, by default.  Their rejection, and condemnation hangs off me like spit, blame, and contempt, making mercy into obligation, not choice, and the justice of Matthew 18:15-17 into revenge.  For instance, others keep saying that I should leave my family, but why?  Ostracism is the last resort, but we have yet to establish that my my mother has sinned by multiple witnesses, and if I leave in anger, it is self- condemnation, self-punishment. an act of ungodly rebellion, on my part.  

Also, check my blog at unthawedfury.wordpress.com for more info.  I just want support confronting my mother, per Matthew 18:15-17;  it should be pretty simple, and note it says this is how you handle sin, not the magnitude; it is all about how you measure.  You wanna go ticky-tack, you can, but if so, prepare to be ticky-tacked, too.  Maybe I am going ticky-tacky, but it is NOTHING I am not prepared, for.  I am doing this in good conscience, as best I can tell.

I don't understand your situation whatsoever, I have no idea why you think you have authority over your mother, your living situation etc. You look old enough to not be living with your mom but I observe many millennials that never leave mom's and pop's basement. Again, I haven't enough info to even consider giving Godly advice.

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On 11/11/2018 at 8:01 PM, William said:

Still there?  Did I need to give mere details?

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I don't understand your situation whatsoever, I have no idea why you think you have authority over your mother, your living situation etc. You look old enough to not be living with your mom but I observe many millennials that never leave mom's and pop's basement. Again, I haven't enough info to even consider giving Godly advice.

I respect your hesitancy, and would like you to read my blog, but look.  It comes down to how I want to live, and that is the issue; I need witnesses, and am fighting for principle; I just want moral support whilst confronting her.  I have a specific interpretation of Scripture, and just want it supported.  I am grieving, fighting numbness, and am trying to follow my instincts, which involve making an example of her.  I am risking her rejection of me, and if so, so be it; to not go through this, I am committing sin.

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On 11/5/2018 at 12:20 AM, Noitartst said:

Also, I have found no local church willing to cooperate with me.

The passage you refer to seems to presuppose that the sinner and the person sinned against are members of the same congregation.  If that isn't the case with you and your mother there is no way you can apply this to your situation.

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On 11/15/2018 at 9:53 AM, theophilus said:

The passage you refer to seems to presuppose that the sinner and the person sinned against are members of the same congregation.  If that isn't the case with you and your mother there is no way you can apply this to your situation.

Yes, I suppose so...trouble is, the elders at the beginning, refused to help, and now she isn't there.  I am trying to find a way to compensate for this, but have not found it.  At essence, I fought for principles, and they were dishonored; how to

honor the principles I fought for?

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On ‎11‎/‎5‎/‎2018 at 12:35 AM, Noitartst said:

I simply long to hear the words, "Philip, there is NO guilt in punishing, or rebuking, your mother."  That's it.  No elliptical excuses.  Just support, and solidarity.

First forgiveness is an absolute must. We learn from Jesus ,," But I say unto you , Love your enemies, bless them that curse you, do good to them that hate you, and pray for them which despitefully use you and persecute you... Matt.5:44 . You will never have  peace in your life if you try to use your own understanding to remedy a problem . Any problem. Jesus says that if we do not forgive we will not be forgiven . Matt.5:15. As for any punishment ,deserved or not, that's God's place to render it in a way that is suitable to Him . In forgiveness lies all the answer . Trying to settle a matter on your own simply will not work .  

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